Thursday, January 08, 2009

I knw its goona be difficult ,,..but then i am strong,..;-)

Year 2008 was full of mixed emotions ,..or in other words like roller coaster ride,..now when I look back and think about the past year I just want to say thanks to God for making me strong with each passing day, for making me learn from my mistakes, for making me realise my potential,.and for helping me achieve my dreams,.
.for the dream to be able to work as a dentist we relocated from Singapore two months back thinking we will work together in Delhi but now things are different friends,..Hubby is going back to Singapore for three yrs for more exposure in his field,  he asked me when he got the result about what my decision was, I could have told him to stay back in India but I know at this point of time what is more important for him,…neither can I accompany him to Singapore as there is no career opportunity for me there, I finished my internship in 2006 and since then this is my first job if I go again for three years to Singapore ,…I will be total blank I know,..Advay has settled well in his play school…I know its gonna be difficult for all three of us but then we don’t have a option,we both cant be together at a place,…if he stays here he will lose opportunity to gain experience and if I go then my career will be lost for ever,….thus its decided that he will move back to Singapore while I will stay here with my sis and Advay,…ya I am sad but happy too….i guess God as always will give me strength to face this new phase of life without hubbys support,managing Advay ,work and home I know wont be easy but I guess with time I will learn.,….:-) now with time I have become more patient ,less irritable and try my best not to lose my cool specially while talking to hubby,…because I know he will be going soon maybe in a month time back to Singapore,..even if I feel bad about something I just count numbers and forget about it or I distract myself to something else,..which really works,..frens,…J this post I just wanted to talk out share out my emotions with u all,….
new yr eve we didn’t do anything special….night time its so cold and breezy that its very difficult to plan something with kid around…so after coming back from work I prepared Whole wheat Pasta in chicken meat ball sauce,..searched alotz for the recipe ,..and finally came up with this,..:-)
things needed for meatball recipe -ground chicken half kg,egg two,parmesan cheese half cup,breadcrumbs half cup,garlic minced one tsp,oregano a pinch,salt to taste and half tsp of olive oil ,mix everything together and make small balls,I took lot of time preparing meatball because the mix was too soft so I had to add corn flour and all purpose flour to make the mix manipulative,…shallow fried the meat ball on Appam tava which is new addition to my kitchen along with OTG so guys u gonna see grill in,baking too at Asankhana,OTG was on my wish list since a very long time when I was in Singapore..i was not aware of appam tava till I saw one at my friends place in Singapore,..and after that a lotz of time on blogosphere,...:-)
for the pasta sauce- things needed are-chopped tomato two ,tomato puree one cup,chopped onion three,crushed garlic cloves two,olive oil one tbsp,salt to taste,crushed pepper half tsp,bay leaf crushed two,one teaspoon each of dried basil and oregano,heat oil in nonstick wok ,once the oil is hot add bay leaf followed by crushed garlic and chopped onions,once onions start turning brown add chopped tomatoes ,tomato puree,salt and pepper,..and let it simmer add one cup of water when the mixture starts boiling add crushed dry basil and oregano and remove from flame and keep aside,tried for the first time chicken meat ball recipe.,..everything together tasted good,but meatball alone was quiet bland maybe salt was less,..;-)

For tiffin mom packed Fara ,I know u guys are not aware what fara ,its

something similar to Momo but up style ,..here goes the recipe for the filling-
250gm overnight soaked chana dal add few drops of water and run in blender keep the paste aside ,chopped coriander leaves,one tbsp of ginger,garlic and green chilli paste ,asafoetida a pinch,salt to taste ,half tsp of turmeric and garam masala powder ,mix everything together and keep aside,knead dough the similar way its done for kachodis,add half tsp of oil while kneading the dough,..fill in the dal mixture ghujia style ,for ghujia design refer this post, make the cover for fara the same way its done for Ghujia prepared during holi,heat water in vessel,once water starts boiling add the dal filled Faras in boiling water for half an hour,keep turning the faras,add few drops of oil in the vessel,once done remove from flame and serve with green chutney this is steamed Fara,...for fried version heat half tsp of oil in non stick wok,add curry leaves and mustard seeds once they start spluttering add sliced faras and fry till brown from both sides.,..had fried fara at clinic with nescafe cappuchino,..combo was perfect for delhi winters,...
Whole wheat pasta with meat ball and Fara goes to Truptis

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Fara also goes to SRILEKHAS blog where she is hosting EFM Savouries Event
will be back frens with some treats in yellow,..till then ceeu all,...bye,...:-)...

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36 comments:

Kitchen Flavours said...

“Life is all about timing... the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable... attainable. Have the patience, wait it out It's all about timing.” Comming to the recipe. Simple and delightful recipes. Fara is something new looks yummy....

DEESHA said...

I can totally relate to this situation Priyanka. My dad was transferred to different cities so we had to stay away for almost 3 years. I just stayed away from my hubby, he was in zurich & I was in India for abt 1 1/2 months. that itself was difficult for me. yu have your family's support too. Be strong & you will emerge a winner. neways, Singapore is not too far away from India, I hope you guys can visit each other often. Good Luck

Happy cook said...

Three year will fly and you can go an see him inS'pore, or he can come over to India.
Alteast both of you are getting what you wanted from all this.

soma said...

I know it is a toguh thingy to be away... but u will have your dreams fulfilled...

fara in indeed something very new! sounds lovely tho'...
Soma(www.ecurry.com)

Yasmeen said...

Congrats on your job priyanka.I understand how it feels to be in such a dilemma,I was in a similar situation,I was not as strong as you though,I wish you pass the duuri with hubby soon and fulfill you career dreams:).
Love the chicken meat balls pasta and fried fara,yummy!

rekhas kitchen said...

humm mm what tosay it is difficult dear be brave and strong pray god and 3years will run easyly good luck

sowmya said...

oh my god..your hubby is relocating to singapore again..I know ,its a tough desicion to stay away from each other..but life is like that and take life as it comes..good thing is u and your hubby are going to have a great career...so all he best..

Meera said...

Priyanka,
I can understand what you are going through. Stay strong. Take care. Time will fly soon. This phase too shall pass.

Fara is totally new to me. Thanks for sharing.

Hugs to you

Asha said...

If you are a dentist, it will be hard to continue in UK but it's good for Medical doctors. Takes time to pass the exams but eventually you can make it.
One thing I am never comfortable with is staying away from each other(husband and wife) for more than few mnts. Try and be together even it takes some sacrificing. Arvind was away in UK for 3monts before I joined him, it was tough for me even though parents were happy for me but you know after sometime....
Fara is new to me, looks great.

Suma Rajesh said...

i understand ur situation...hope 3 years runns too fast...ur meals make me tempt to hve it now...will surly try this...fara is unique and looks great with cappucinoo..

Curry Leaf said...

I can understand ur dilemma.Be strong,this phase will pass.Soon vacations may come and you may be able to join hubby in Singapore,or he can come down for a few days.Think positively,a little time apart can bring you more closer,understand and respect each other rather than taking each other for granted.Now if its too difficult,still you can join him.DO TAKE CARE,THINKS WILL WORK OUT
Delightful recipes,one thing your hubby's gonna miss is your delightful dishes,I think.Be +ve

Cham said...

It is tough not only for u for ur little one too. But after all, each one should try to be independent. Everyone has a carreer and ambition, I wish you Both of You Good Luck, and God Will stand with your hard time.
Fara and cappu looks yum and the meatball too..

LG said...

I can remember your mom telling me fara recipe on her visit to Singapore. I am yet to make them. Thanks for writing it down in the post :) Time flies! hope 3 yrs flies like 3 mins for you and Advay. Take Care. And Singapore mein mera ghar hai when you want to come over and stay :)

Sharmila said...

It is indeed a tough decision Priyanka! Am sure you will do well. :-)
Fara is new to me. Will try making it. Good luck! :-)

Mahimaa's kitchen said...

tough times prepare us to get stronger and stronger in life. but at the end, it is all worth the pain.

Priti said...

Hi Dear, Its gud to know you are strong to handle this kind of situation & I'm glad that you have started working...Howz cutie pie doing? It would have been gud if would hav come here too...but anyways....pasta looks great...enjoy ur time now with hubby

Sunshinemom said...

If these are your plans, you need to be strong! I am not comfortable with the idea of partners staying away but look at the bright side, "Even lovers need a day far away, from each other" like Chicago sang:)!

Fara looks great and like you said - yes! it is new for me.

Purnima said...

Priyanka, very difficult decision, I u/stand --but u will b engrossed in work, home n activities to keep ur mind off the thoughts of being away...also you can plan visits as per ur convinience..be strong. Love increases with distance, its true!
The recipes r too good, as usual..fursat mein details padhungi, filal just saw pics...hv got emotional going thru ur first para..ALL THE BEST TO U IN UR CAREER N PERSONAL LIFE AS WELL!

anudivya said...

Like many women here, I can partly relate to your situation... Hang in there!

Priya said...

Can understand how tough to stay away from ur hubby..take care of u..3years will run away like anything..Be strong n singapore is not far away from India, hope u can go there r else he may come here for some days na...God will be with u..wishing u good luck Priyanka..Fara is completely new to me..meatballs looks awesome dear...

delhibelle said...

It is a tough choice to make. Stay strong and all the best.
Fara sounds yum

Premyscakes said...

Fara looks new to me and sounds great. It is very difficult to be i know, since i had gone thru the same for one and half years due to my daughters education and changed the plan to be together. But in my case iam not at all independent. If u can with yr family support then the time will fly like anything. Good Luck

SriLekha said...

very delightful recipes!

Dibs said...

arghh.. I can understand what you are going through. I have done that for 4 out of 6 years of marriage, and in my case, I was usually alone, as parents, inalws friends were all in diff cities! The positive side as you have already said is you do become a strong person, and sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder! Wish you and your husb all very the best, happiness and success!

jayasree said...

Its a tough decision. And you know the reasons that pushed you to this. Be strong. With family's support and a career at hand, you can surely manage.
Fara sounds interesting. Something new to me.

Simran said...

I'm sure you both will be fine. And singapore isn't that far so you can always go there for vacations :)

And fara - I know what that is, because a friend will make it and I loved it. But I never knew how to make it myself. Thanks for the recipe

Sushma said...

I can understand your situation, I too was in the same position 7 months back. I & my son were in India & hubby was in Singapore for 10 months. It is quite tough, but manageble though. Having family's support is strongest advantage. Now, that me & my hubby are together, I'm missing my family members sooo very much. Good luck & be assured that whatever happens.., happens for good :)

Vidhya said...

Glad that you guys finally came to a decision which we couldn't do till now. I think this is gonna be my situation in couple of months. With my twin girls I have to go to chennai, stay there and my husband will be here in US fixing up things with our home here in USA. I am not convinced or confident enough like you to face this situation. Still thinking What I am gonna do:(

RAKS KITCHEN said...

Hi,
When I read ur posts,I feel like talking to a close friend as you are sharing like that! I know you can go through! Take care:)

homecooked said...

Hey...things will work out,dont worry. And loved the recipes. Simple and tasty as always :)

Uj said...

I am sure that you are strong enough :) Hope that the 3 years will fly in a jiffy and you both will be together :)
Fara is something new to me..lokks yummy

Alka said...

I am no body to SUGGEST you what is rt and whts wrong for you...its ur life and go ahead with your dreams.But i am just worried abt Advay....will the baby be ok without his father around.I know after some time things get in control and kids dont bother us much but still the vacuum is difficult to fill.
I can relate to u though my prob. is not as grave as yours..since my hubby is out of India for few weeks ,but my son is missing him so much that he has lost his appetite too.I know its almost always expected from woman to sacrifice her career and look for the family,but then who else can take care of a baby better than a mother? I am not of those regressive types who thinks female should stay at home ,but i completely believe that kids need both of their parents around for a healthy growth
Anyways whatever the circumstances be,here's wishing you a lot of luck,and never hesitate to share your problems and woes with us.
Loads of love to advay,do take good care of him,they need double the attention in such situation

karuna said...

hey, do not worry u will be just fine.it will be difficult initially , but the good thing is ure working, that will keep u busy. and these days keeping in touch is not difficult at all, and moreover singapore is hardly 6-7 hours frm delhi. ure strong gal, just hold on.

Mallika said...

I can't imagine how unsettled things must feel right now. But I do believe everything happens for reason. Three years may seem like a long time now, but in the context of your whole lives it is a small piece only. Big hug and my best wishes through this time.

vidhas said...

Like many friends said, You have to be strong. First time to your blog , nice blog. Simple and yummy recipe.

Srivalli said...

I can understand how it must be...but i am sure things will turn out better soon...thanks for the entries!